Recommended Relationship Articles and Podcasts

Over the past 20+ years, I’ve read and listened to hundreds of resources on love, sex, relationships, human connection, healthy and thriving long term relationships, and where personal happiness fits into all of it. Here is a list of my most recent recalled favorites and some that provided much needed insight or a shift in perspective along my clinical trajectory:

The Atlantic:

• Masters of Love

• Lessons on Love

• Why the Most Successful Marriages are Start-Ups, Not Mergers

• The Marriage Lesson I Learned Too Late

• The First Lesson of Marriage 101: There are No Soul Mates

NYTimes:

• How I learned that the Problem in my Marriage was me

• The Best Relationship Advice We’ve Heard So Far This Year

• The Relationship Advice Couples Counselors Swear By

• 8 Phrases to Help Your Relationship Thrive

Podcasts:

• Justin Garcia (On The Science of Sex) - Armchair Expert

• Orna Guralnik (Couples Therapy) - Armchair Expert

• James Sexton (Divorce Lawyer) - On Purpose with Jay Shetty

• Lori Gottlieb: Stop Mistaking Calm for Boring - On Purpose with Jay Shetty

• Break Toxic Love Patterns - On Purpose with Jay Shetty

• What the Silence Said - Modern Love

• Love is a Skill, Not a Feeling - Alain De bottom (Youtube Video)

MasterClass:

• Relational Intelligence - Esther Perel

• The Art of Sex Appeal - Shan Boodram

• Sex & Communication - Emily Morse

Academic Articles:

• Leone, C. (2021) The Application of Contemporary Self Psychology to Couples Therapy. Couple and Family Psychoanalysis, 11(2): 170-186

• Mengya, X., Chen, Y. & Dunne S. (2024) What makes people feel loved? An exploratory study on core elements of love across family, romantic, and friend relationships. Family Process, 63: 1304-1318

• Frediani, G. & Migerode, L. (2022) Seeking Connection can trigger shame loops in couples: An attachment-based understanding. Family Process, 63: 34-47

• Sytsma, M. (2025) Sexual Desire Types in Married Couples: Frequencies and Correlates in a US Representative Dyadic Sample. Psychosexual Therapy, 1(1): 1-17

• Hazan, C. & Shaver, P. (1987) Romantic Love Conceptualized as an Attachment Process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3): 511-524

• Erskine, R. (1998) Attunement and involvement: therapeutic responses to relational needs. International Journal of psychotherapy, 3(3): 235-244